Choose love, not fear

“I cherish the community you have built in Bend Reality. So many different perspectives and intelligent folks. I love that everyone is coming from a different place in life with varying degrees of love and fear in their life. Both positions have something to offer me.”

A new Bend Reality member

Bend Reality is a by-invitation-only community for expansive people, but if this website speaks to you, we always consider requests to join. There is no cost.

“Expansive” means people who do our best to turn towards love rather than fear… who seek to be curious, open-minded and supportive. Our members move through life with compassion as well as drive.

We meet regularly online and occasionally in-person. At present, about 125 members belong to the Bend Reality community.

by Bruce Kasanoff


“I love what Bruce does with Bend Reality. He really spends the time preparing good questions and facilitates the kind of discussion you can’t get anywhere else. He manages to attract the most interesting people, all who have incredibly thoughtful viewpoints. Bruce is the master at dislodging you from your inbox and providing rocket fuel for more expansive thinking.”

Dottie DeHart, Principal at DeHart and Company Public Relations

“Bend Reality serves as a grounding reminder of what should be most important to us all. It also serves as a catalyst that helps me tackle deeper issues, so that I can be the kind of person my loved ones need me to be.”

Richard Bezemer, Founding Member, Mountain Towns 2030

“You provide such an invaluable gift with Bend Reality – you encourage all of us to see this complex world with a deeper, broader perspective by providing a safe space for people to share, be heard and acknowledged as we explore questions from you that go deep into our inner beings. It is what the world needs! Thank you for giving us the opportunity to share the magic.”

Monica Nester, VP & General Manager at Marisan Group

“Bruce has created a welcoming and supportive atmosphere in which we all have space to explore soul-provoking questions. Each call I find myself empowered and challenged as I listen and learn from others, while also being encouraged to share my own unique journey. I leave each call inspired, knowing that there is a community of like-minded people who strive to live expansively and refuse to settle in life.”

Karen Schuyler, Strategic Programs at Intuitive

“I love the Bend Reality experience because I ‘need’ it more than I ‘want’ it. Our community nudges me to think and feel more expansively, when most people my age are flirting with retirement. My professional and personal lives are growing in the right ways, and I’m more fulfilled, because I’m not playing it safe.”

Dr. Paul L. Corona, Leadership Development Professor and Director, Northwestern University - Kellogg School of Management

I am deeply grateful to be a part of Bend Reality. Bruce facilitates a community of extraordinary humans who inspire my curiosity and challenge my thinking with every encounter. Bend Reality has expanded the capacity of my heart and strengthened my belief in what is possible.”

Paula Di Rita Wishart, Executive Coach